This blog is for parents who want to read something original and real about parenting, not the same old same old…lots of science, lots of humour and a load of good tips that really work! And an occasional rant.

Cultural Conditioning Of Girls

I sat down with my daughter on Monday this week to watch her favourite t.v. guilty pleasure Don’t Tell the Bride on BBC3. It’s a programme which gets me spitting with…

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Negative Feelings Past and Present

Children’s feelings weren’t taken very seriously back when I was a child; in those days a child expressing negative feelings was known variously as  ‘ungrateful,’ ‘spoilt’ or just ‘naughty.’ Remember…

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How To Make Kids Listen

How do you make kids listen to you? If you find yourself repeating endlessly ‘You just don’t listen to me!’ here’s a guide to help you! Close observation over many…

Transgender – A Parents’ Guide pt II

It’s hard to write about transgender issues as a parenting blogger because in questioning the prevailing trans ideology I know I will be dismissed as transphobic by many, so it’s…

Transgender – A Parents’ Guide

My eighteen year old son tells me that at his college, everyone’s talking about gender and in particular whether they might be transgender, gender-queer, gender-fluid and a host of other…

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If Kids Fight Can You Stay Friends?

You know the scene, when your kids are little: whenever you go round to your friend’s for a nice coffee and chat the kids fight, one gets hurt and it…

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Managing Disrespect

So our child is treating us with disrespect or contempt and we’re feeling really pissed off. How do we do ‘pissed off’ effectively? When managing disrespect from our child there…

Socialising Girls Into Motherhood

Writing my last post about kids treating their mothers with contempt got me thinking about the role of cultural socialisation on how we are as mothers. There’s a lot of…

Obnoxious Behaviour

I’ve been hearing stories all week of obnoxious behaviour from children towards their mothers. I’ve heard stories about kids of all ages, boys and girls, from toddlers to teenagers, and…

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Sons And Daughters

Sons and daughters are equally brilliant.* I speak from experience. I had three sons in a row and then a daughter. During my fourth pregnancy people would say to me…

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Shared Parental Leave: Will It Work?

When I had my four babies my husband and I were both self-employed working mostly from a home office so we had the perfect situation for sharing childcare (bar his…

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Nine Ways We’re Made Anxious

Anxious? Worried? Nervous? You will be! I haven’t always been this laid-back, easy-going and cool as a parent, I don’t want you to think I just landed here like this….

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Top 3 Mothers Day Gifts

Of all the Mothers Day gifts you could reasonably expect, which would you choose? And what do you think would be the favourite gift for most mums? Well, according to…

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Is My Child Transgender?

I have been debating for a while about writing a blog about transgender issues for parents. This article, Parenting a Transgender Child, which recently appeared in the Huffington Post, has…

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Worry About My Daughter

I refuse to worry about my daughter. Point blank refuse. She’s fifteen so there’s lots I know I should be worrying about but I am not going to. I refuse…

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Do We Have To Play With Our Kids?

Why do we parents feel such an obligation to play with our kids? I just read a blog called Why I’m Afraid to Play With My Kids which reminds me of…