This blog is for parents who want to read something original and real about parenting, not the same old same old…lots of science, lots of humour and a load of good tips that really work! And an occasional rant.

Should We Listen To Children?
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That was a trick question, the obvious answer is ‘well, duh, yes of course we should listen to children.’ We should listen to children very carefully. By carefully, I mean that in the way we listen we should take care … Read More

Empty Threats: What To Do Next
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You know how you sometimes make empty threats which you have no intention of carrying out? They just pop out before you realise what you’re saying and your next thought is ‘Oh shit.’ Like this: I’ll take all your toys … Read More

Cultural Conditioning Of Girls
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I sat down with my daughter on Monday this week to watch her favourite t.v. guilty pleasure Don’t Tell the Bride on BBC3. It’s a programme which gets me spitting with rage at the attitudes sometimes shown by bridegrooms (or their … Read More

Negative Feelings Past and Present
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Children’s feelings weren’t taken very seriously back when I was a child; in those days a child expressing negative feelings was known variously as  ‘ungrateful,’ ‘spoilt’ or just ‘naughty.’ Remember these favourite parenting phrases from childhood: ‘I’ll give you something … Read More

How To Make Kids Listen
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How do you make kids listen to you? If you find yourself repeating endlessly ‘You just don’t listen to me!’ here’s a guide to help you! Close observation over many years has revealed to me the fact that children have … Read More

Transgender – A Parents’ Guide pt II
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It’s hard to write about transgender issues as a parenting blogger because in questioning the prevailing trans ideology I know I will be dismissed as transphobic by many, so it’s a risk. If it was hard for me to write … Read More

Transgender – A Parents’ Guide
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My eighteen year old son tells me that at his college, everyone’s talking about gender and in particular whether they might be transgender, gender-queer, gender-fluid and a host of other things which he couldn’t remember. The teen/young adult years are … Read More

If Kids Fight Can You Stay Friends?
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You know the scene, when your kids are little: whenever you go round to your friend’s for a nice coffee and chat the kids fight, one gets hurt and it happens again and again. Gradually resentments build up on both … Read More

Managing Disrespect
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So our child is treating us with disrespect or contempt and we’re feeling really pissed off. How do we do ‘pissed off’ effectively? When managing disrespect from our child there are a few do’s and don’ts: Managing Disrespect Don’ts: Don’t … Read More

Socialising Girls Into Motherhood
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Writing my last post about kids treating their mothers with contempt got me thinking about the role of cultural socialisation on how we are as mothers. There’s a lot of discussion these days on the subject of socialising girls. We … Read More

Obnoxious Behaviour
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I’ve been hearing stories all week of obnoxious behaviour from children towards their mothers. I’ve heard stories about kids of all ages, boys and girls, from toddlers to teenagers, and it kicked off with a piece I read in the … Read More

Sons And Daughters
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Sons and daughters are equally brilliant.* I speak from experience. I had three sons in a row and then a daughter. During my fourth pregnancy people would say to me (in front of my three little boys!) things like: “I … Read More

Shared Parental Leave: Will It Work?
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When I had my four babies my husband and I were both self-employed working mostly from a home office so we had the perfect situation for sharing childcare (bar his frequent trips away). We were both able to spend time … Read More

Nine Ways We’re Made Anxious
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Anxious? Worried? Nervous? You will be! I haven’t always been this laid-back, easy-going and cool as a parent, I don’t want you to think I just landed here like this. It’s taken a lot of sheer effort, determination and hard … Read More

Top 3 Mothers Day Gifts
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Of all the Mothers Day gifts you could reasonably expect, which would you choose? And what do you think would be the favourite gift for most mums? Well, according to a poll by homes4media, the most popular gift for Mothers … Read More

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