My eighteen year old son tells me that at his college, everyone’s talking about gender and in particular whether they might be transgender, gender-queer, gender-fluid and a host of other things which he couldn’t remember. The teen/young adult years are a time of exploring identity; in those years it feels particularly crucial to find out who you are, and these days young people are faced with a bewildering display of options.
I wrote here about transgender children (and how they don’t exist) but what about young people? What do parents need to know?
The ideas that your kids will be hearing at college or university have come from the hugely influential trans-activist lobby and I’ll attempt to sum up what they’re saying here so at least you’ll feel informed. You might want to sit down and make yourself a cup of tea.
‘Transgender’ is a recent term which has replaced the more accurate ‘transsexual.’ Transsexuality is a distressing condition of body dysphoria which means that a person literally feels they have been born in the wrong body: it is impossible to live as their biological sex. It is a rare condition. Transsexuals suffer great discrimination and should obviously be afforded the same rights and respect as anybody: as a society we should do our best to understand the particular difficulties they face. That should go without saying.
The new word ‘transgender,’ on the other hand, means that there is no ‘male’ or ‘female’ physical body, there is only male or female ‘identity.’
Here’s a simple explanation of the difference between sex and gender:
As trans activists focus exclusively on men who identify as women (trans women) I will do the same here to explore what transgender means in terms of what they are asking us to believe. It’s this:
Based on this premise, we are asked to accept the following:
And we are asked to follow these rules (and not asked very nicely to be honest):
None of the above is happening to men, interestingly. No trans men are demanding access to men-only spaces and no men are being forced to accept them as ‘real men.’ Men are not in any danger if women enter their spaces, it is the woman who puts herself at risk. No trans men are hounding other men with rape and death threats on social media, as trans activists are doing to women. No trans men are insisting that gay men must find their vaginas sexually desirable.
No man is in any way threatened by the trans lobby’s beliefs-presented-as-facts. It is therefore very easy for a man to label himself as ‘cis’ and feel proud of the fact that he is right-on and ‘trans-inclusive’ when he has nothing to lose.
Trans activism is a bullying political lobby which puts women and girls at risk. It gives licence to any man who wants to access women’s space for whatever reason and it takes away women and girls’ right to protect themselves, state their terms or establish their boundaries. It puts men’s ‘needs’ first and silences women, taking away their right to say no. It also harms genuine trannsexual women; those who don’t deny that they are biologically male are being hounded from the trans community.
If your head is reeling by now, sorry about all this.
As parents we need to know though. If we want to support our kids we need to fully accept the daughter who is seen as ‘unfeminine’ or the son who is judged to be ‘girly’ by society, and defend their right to be who they are. Perpetuating the illusion that they actually are the opposite sex doesn’t help any child, whether that child is genuinely transsexual or not. We can accept where our kids are in their search for their identities without making a huge deal of it, but we also have a responsibility to be straight with them about the facts. If we understand the propaganda being peddled to young people by the trans activist lobby we are more equipped to counter it in conversations when our kids are confused.
If you are the parent of a young person who has declared themselves trans and you need some support and a safe space to discuss these issues I suggest you take a look at this blog written by a mother.
Next week I will write about the tactics used by the trans lobby, why our daughters are particularly susceptible to them, and how liberal feminism colludes in the disempowerment of young women. Fun times!