This blog is for parents who want to read something original and real about parenting, not the same old same old…lots of science, lots of humour and a load of good tips that really work! And an occasional rant.

The Tyranny of Being Beautiful

‘Ooooh! You look GORGEOUS! Wow. That really suits you! You look really lovely in flowery stuff! So gorgeous!’ I said that to my 16-year-old son at the end of last…

Trusting My Kids

Trusting my kids has never come naturally to me. I have always had to work hard at it, it doesn’t seem to come automatically. The reason I know that that…

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Letting Kids Own Their Problems

It’s that time of year again. Off they go back to school and everything in our household ran smoothly up until the last minute when my daughter realised she couldn’t…

Helping Kids Too Much

I know helping kids is part of our job as parents and I know that children of course sometimes need our help. Very often though they actually don’t, but we…

Taking Parental Responsibility

This week I travelled up to North Wales to see Grandma with  my 13-year-old daughter, the first time we have done this trip just the two of us.  At Oxford…

Being Ill On Duty

I’ve had a weird virus thing this summer, it’s been going on for a few weeks now, and it’s hard to remember a time when I wasn’t being ill. It’s…

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Going Out In the Rain

‘Bye!’ said my 13-yr-old daughter cheerily as she prepared to leave the house to go for a swim in the outdoor pool. She opened the front door and was almost…

New Communication Methods

I may look like I’m social-media savvy because I blog and I have Facebook and Twitter accounts, but I was very late to all this technology really, and needed a…

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What Are Children For?

I was asked this question recently as I was in full flow pontificating on one of my favourite subjects, the balance and interaction between genetic inheritance and environment and the…

The Summer Holiday You Want

So what kind of summer holiday do you want? I always think it’s important to know, and to make sure your children know too. I used to say to my…

Things We Worry About

When it comes to our children, the things we worry about are endless. I’m sure the media doesn’t help. If I see one more article with the headline ‘Is your…

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Parenting Fashions

Parenting fashions come and go, and in this mass-communication world parents can’t really avoid hearing about them. Some new idea is ‘proved to work’, it’s publicised all over the place…

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My Daughter Is ‘Bikini-Ready’

I read an article a while ago about how to talk to your teenage daughter about the pressures to get ‘bikini-ready’ for the summer so that, presumably, you can go…

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Mobile Phone Dependency

I have a 16-year-old son who has never developed the skill of owning a mobile phone. He had one once and there was always ‘something wrong with the battery’. He…

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Looking After Our Own Needs

Last week I took myself off for a wild and windy weekend’s camping. I’d reached the point where all those plates I was spinning in the air felt like they were…

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Ways Children Express Frustration

I was listening to a wonderful grandmother speaking on a radio phone-in this week, she was talking about how much she loved looking after her grandchildren. I think they let…