This blog is for parents who want to read something original and real about parenting, not the same old same old…lots of science, lots of humour and a load of good tips that really work! And an occasional rant.

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Strategies And Techniques

I’m not a fan of strategies and techniques of behaviour-management and discipline, I never have been, partly because it all sounds too much like hard work to me and I’m…

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What Not To Say To Twins

I’m an identical twin so I know. Here goes. What’s it like being twins? What’s it like being a singleton? Which one of you is the leader? We’re not a…

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Divorce: What Do Our Kids Need?

Separation and divorce can lead to a lot of guilt for parents, it’s not what anyone wants, nobody plans for it. And it’s traumatic, it’s the loss of the future…

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Want A Copy Of My Book?

I have totally felt like the suffragette mother in Mary Poppins this week, although I haven’t actually left the house singing ‘Votes for women step in time!’ I haven’t actually…

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When Teenage Sons Are Abusive

In all my work with parents, the most shocking and upsetting stories I hear are those about teenage sons treating their mothers with contempt, and I am hearing more and…

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Authority: What Does It Mean?

Whenever I read about different types of authority, the two extremes are always represented as authoritarian and permissive. I think that’s wrong; being permissive is an ideology, not a kind…

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Top 5 Posts of 2014

WordPress kindly sent me my blogging stats for 2014 and I thought I would present the top 5 posts here in my own personal Hit Parade. In case you missed…

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First World Problems

It took me a while to realise that a lot (all) of the problems I used to worry about with my children were not problems at all, they were just..um…life….

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Trusting Our Teenage Daughters

My fifteen-year-old daughter went to a party last Saturday night, after which she had a ‘sleepover’ at her friend’s house. She does this so often I’m wondering when she’s going…

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A Handy Christmas Guide

There you go thinking it’s only November, plenty of time yet, and then December starts and it’s always already a week in before you’ve noticed what’s happened. Time for a…

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My New Parenting Book is Out!

My new parenting book is out now, it’s called Communicating with Kids and that’s what it’s about, which is ironic really because during the year I spent writing it I…

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Mothers: Best Drivers In The World

I passed my driving test when I was eight months pregnant with my fourth child and because of that my examiner didn’t make me do an emergency stop. Which was…

A Language Guide For Grandparents

Parenting language has changed beyond all recognition over the decades since I was a child. When I say that, I mean I recognise it all, but if my mother had…

Ways We Treat Our Kids

There are some ways we treat our kids which we wouldn’t like ourselves, I’ve done it, and for some reason I’ve imagined that even though it wouldn’t work for me,…

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I Don’t Like Halloween

‘I’m going out with my friends tonight’ announced my daughter, on Halloween night. ‘Trick or Treating?’ I asked. ‘No mum’ she said, rolling her eyes. ‘Ooh’ I said, ‘have you…

New Improved Kids

We live in a culture of improvement – new improved tastes, experiences, products, results – you can’t get away with just leaving something as it is anymore, it will begin…